Written by Lilia Moskalchuk - 24.11.2014
If you ever figure out what NLP is, it isn’t anything.
It’s not a model, it’s not a psychotherapy, it’s not a form of personality theory. It’s a meta-model. It tells you how to understand how other people do things. You can use it to understand Gestalt. But unlike Gestalt, you can’t do NLP.
It’s like doing a shovel. There’s a garden and a shovel, and people don’t say “well, let’s plant some shovel”. The shovel is the tool that helps you be more effective in the garden, but the goal is the garden, and the product is the plants and the vegetables and the fruits. So NLP is the shovel, the tool. NLP is the meta of models. And you use NLP to examine a behavior in a very systematic way.
Gestalt for example, is effective with about 4 or 5 patterns, because those are the patterns that Fritz Perls learned to deal with effectively. When a client comes to a Gestalt expert, they are being measured by the standards of Gestalt. If your client’s problem is rooted in one of those 4 or 5 patterns – Gestalt is a miracle. If it’s in the other 70 thousand patterns that people may have, then back in the day the person would be considered a “resistant client”.
In the past you changed the client to fit the system. However with the recognition of patterns and the palette of therapies, the world of psychotherapy came to an understanding that the school or the personality characteristics of the system aren’t real. It’s the client that’s real. Now we change the system to fit the client, pick the therapy system that matches the client’s need.
That’s what NLP allows you to do. You don’t do NLP, you do a pattern from Gestalt, a pattern from TA and a pattern from Reichian. Because those are the three patters that a person uses to damage their life.
And that is one of the most important contributions NLP made to the world.
How do you understand NLP?